First world problems

Woo hoo... half term and a week away from the humdrum. Us and some friends decided on a week to Thailand. 

A small description of our families:

Us - two adults of average abilities and capabilities. Meandering from thinking 'great parenting - go us' to 'Oh my god, bad parents - life is so bad'

3 kids all by adoption, 2 are with us and the other staying with friends after the last time we were away. Sadly not any trust left there. 

Oh and our Middly's friend. Rounded, sensible, sociable, not too much and not too little....

Our friends - two adults of average abilities and capabilities. Meandering from thinking 'great parenting - go us' to 'Oh my god, bad parents - life is so bad'

2 kids (both our god-daughters) via birth, one with us (youngest) and other at home with dad. 

Both our youngest have similar issues... touch, feel, unable to verbally share what they want, wind each other up, get on so well together. Both have sensory processing disorder. God-daughter has it worse that Jacob.

Things are going ok, we 4 adults share each other frustrations, we help each other out, we understand what we are going through, we all attempt to parent the two that require parenting. 

Not so good is what is going on at home. Eldest leaves us soon for the US. We are on a countdown - and as time goes on that countdown seems to be much slower than it was when we first began the countdown. 

He has no money - not a bean... nothing, nada, nowt. From the moment we left the house it is all we have been asked for. In a few weeks he leaves and he has nothing. This is his lesson. Will it work? Who knows. 

Why a lesson? My question in return: Why did we have a long almost hour conversation about this that and he next thing the night before we left and you brought up nothing about money - instead choosing to send us abusive message after abusive message demanding money? 

Meanwhile - what should be a relaxing time away has my head full of what is happening at home. How did he afford to go out clubbing with his 'friend' (a friend who does this everytime we are away to both oldest and middly) - what will he live on in US? Sadly the Bank of Dad and Dad can not afford to get him out of that one. 

A small saving Grace - I insisted he withdraw £200 a week ago for me to deposit into his savings. I am glad that I didn't deposit it and that it is in the family safe in the house - all locked up. He tried to access his savings account - queue the tirade of abuse over text.

I'm sharing - because our friends get it, they see it and they see the angst it is causing me. I am quiet and becoming more withdrawn - I need to move on from it and stop worrying. 

Middly's friend has put a few words into Eldest. It is nice to be appreciated by someone.

That's why I am sharing. 

Where's that prosecco?